“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.”
“We are no one else. We are ourselves. We must be that, with no regrets, if we wish to be happy.”
“Sometimes it takes a wrong turn to get you to the right place.”
#5 I am what I think.
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.
The WFS New Life program, and especially Statement #5 opened my eyes to how I was living life for everyone else. Over time, the child I once was easily morphed into the thoughts, ideas, aspirations, and goals of those around me. Desperately trying to fit in, I quieted my own thoughts and feelings which left me as a version who fit others. Who I was disappeared and alcohol easily became an emotional escape mechanism.
Learning my own thoughts in sobriety felt overwhelming at first, but quickly became a journey of discovery. Exploring what I thought of something was like building an updated version of myself. Writing thoughts in a journal or even simply jotting down quotes that I related to was exciting and refreshing. My outlook shifted and I began to find my voice. I even learned how to say no without regret and the learning continues every day. It’s no wonder why our founder, Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D. made Statement #5 the center of our program.
In our WFS Program booklet, it states, “Since we no longer choose to drink or use as an escape, repairing our sense of self becomes essential. We can do this by learning new tools for changing our thinking, to help guide us into a rewarding sobriety.” Each day this week, examine your thoughts. Do your thoughts bring you deeper into sobriety and recovery or further away from it? Is there a part of you ready to be uncovered? What tools do you use to create and live your authentic life?
Hi 4C Women,
I say very often that I have found my voice and I know it was found through the WFS program and especially Statement #5. Before recovery, what I thought of myself was not exactly self-esteem building or empowering. It was challenging enough to introduce myself as a competent woman at a meeting yet to add more positive adjectives/nouns to describe and define myself seemed an impossibility.
These questions helped me to think about how I see myself:
What do I do consistently well?
What are my strongest traits/characteristics?
What do I respect about myself?
How do I feel about speaking my voice?
I feel empowered when…
One of my favorite songs about self-realization is “Here I Stand” by Karen Drucker on her “The Heart of Healing” album. I listened to it many times and shared it with my WFS group as it truly expresses my journey to living Statement #5. I emailed her letting her know how much this song represented me and WFS with its emotional and spiritual growth, empowerment, and belief in self. She was happy that I shared it with other WFS 4C women and hoped I would continue to do so.
“Here I Stand.”
Here I Stand Words & Music: Karen Drucker & Sloan Wainwright This song was written with another one of my favorite singer/songwriters, Sloan Wainwright. We got together and talked about what was going on in our lives and realized that we were both finally feeling that we had let go of the old stories of not enough, and giving our power away. This song is a celebration for anyone who is willing to stand up and claim their power.
“I was a little girl who never spoke her mind.
I wouldn’t rock the boat, I couldn’t cross the line,
but every step that I’ve taken, every pain, every tear,
has led me to the woman who’s standing right here.
I got so tired of giving myself away,
always looking for someone to tell me I was okay.
I got to a place where I could trust my heart,
it was the perfect place for a brand- new start.
Chorus: Here I stand in my power.
Here I stand in my power.
Here I stand in my power.
Here I stand. (Here I stand) Here I stand.
I am a warrior. I am invincible.
I am as strong as steel and I am capable,
and I am soft as a feather light and free,
and the truth that I know, healing begins with me.
Chorus Bridge: Here I stand. Here I stand. Here I stand.
With all that I’ve been through, there ain’t nothin’ I can’t do…
©TayToones Music BMI 2015 & Derby Disc Music SESAC From Karen’s CD: “Joy In Our Hearts” and “The Heart of Healing 2″
So empowering and so … me from not speaking my mind growing up to the woman standing in her power and knowing that healing began with me!
Bonded in loving ourselves, healing ourselves, and being empowered to define ourselves in a positive light, Dee