There are many ways to access WFS-oriented peer support. We invite you to explore these below. However, if none of these methods are appealing to you or if you are unable to access them for any reason, please be reassured that the WFS New Life Program was specifically designed to be effective when used individually as well as in groups.
Women for Sobriety meetings, also frequently referred to as “face-to-face” groups, are available in the United States and Canada. Please visit the Meeting Finder page to locate a meeting near you. WFS meetings are limited to women who are personally engaged in recovery from problematic drug and/or alcohol use; women in recovery from other types of addictive behaviors are encouraged to find other sources of support. Anything discussed at a WFS meeting is confidential. The identity of members is not revealed outside the group. It is up to the discretion of each woman whether she wants to break her own anonymity as a member of WFS.
Meetings are held at least once a week and are typically one hour to ninety minutes. WFS meetings use a discussion format, so chairs are usually placed in a circle and the ideal size is six to ten women. This provides every woman a chance to be involved in discussions if she wishes. To reduce distractions and allow everyone to feel heard, participants try to refrain from handwork, eating, and side conversations. Triggers are reduced by refraining from using specific names/brands of alcohol or drugs, not telling drinking or using stories, and coming to meetings sober, without having ingested any alcohol and/or drugs the day of the meeting.
All WFS meetings follow a structured format:
- At the beginning of the meeting, the 13 Acceptance Statements and the Mission Statement are read out loud and the CM or CCM may remind the group about the guidelines. Typically, each member of the group reads one of the 13 Statements and then the entire group reads the thought-action (italicized portion).
- Each woman introduces herself by saying, "My name is ____ and I am a competent woman." She then shares a positive action (how she handled a situation differently) or a feeling (she was able to identify and/or respond to differently) and selects one of the 13 Statements to which it relates.
- If a participant has an urgent need for support, feedback, or encouragement, she will have an opportunity to share.
- A topic will be introduced, typically based on a piece of WFS literature, and the discussion portion of the meeting begins.
- At the end of the meeting, participants stand in a circle (if possible) with joined hands and recite the WFS Motto: "We are capable and competent, caring and compassionate, always willing to help another, bonded together in overcoming our addictions."
A silent donation is collected at meetings. The suggested donation is $2 - $5 (more if possible, less if necessary); however, no one is turned away from the meeting if they are unable to give a donation. These group donations are sent directly to the WFS office to help support the program's services and to help defray some of the operating costs of the organization.
Groups are run by a WFS Certified Moderator (CM) who has established a minimum of one year of continuous sobriety and is thoroughly acquainted with the New Life Program and its philosophy. The certification process includes having read Turnabout or Goodbye Hangovers, Hello Life, demonstrating knowledge of the New Life Program when filling out the CM application, and receiving approval from the organization. CM’s are then provided with a Moderator’s Manual and other training materials.
While CM’s have demonstrated a certain level of knowledge of the New Life Program, participants should remember that they are not skilled professionals. CM’s are peers in recovery who serve as volunteer stewards of the New Life Program by coordinating meeting logistics and sharing their knowledge of the program. They may sometimes need to refer a woman to additional supports if the woman’s needs exceed the capacity of the group.
Some CM’s have Certified Co-Moderators (CCM’s) to assist them with running a group, or they may identify other helpers as appropriate. If you have any concerns about how a WFS meeting is run, please contact the office or a Board member.
The WFS Online message board and chat room was started by a dedicated volunteer, fourcwoman, who paid for and managed these services for many years. It is now paid for through the organization thanks to a generous annuity endowment. WFS Online continues to be run as an open forum for participants of the New Life Program. Designated volunteers manage the forum and chat rooms with support from office staff and the WFS Board of Directors. All WFS Chats are led by women who are Certified by the WFS Office to be Chat Leaders; they are well versed in the WFS New Life Program and report having a minimum of one year of continuous sobriety. All viewpoints and opinions expressed in both the WFS Online forum and chat room are those of the author and may not reflect the official views of Women for Sobriety, Inc. Access to the chat room is through the forum.
There is no fee to join; however, participants frequently support the organization through donations. Women who are age 18 or older and seeking sobriety from alcohol and/or other drug addictions are welcome to join. As the forum is a private site, for confidentiality and anonymity reasons, the Forum Management Team screens and approves all registrations. After completing the registration form, you will receive an email within a few hours to CONFIRM YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS. If you do not see this verification email in your Inbox, be sure to check your Spam Folder. Once you verify your email address is correct, you will receive a Welcome Letter from the Forum Management Team that you are approved to access the WFS Online Site.
The WFS office maintains a list of women who have volunteered to be phone contacts for women who may not have access to other WFS peer support or who wish to develop a more individualized support relationship. The general location of these volunteers is marked on the Meeting Finder. For privacy purposes, the names and phone numbers are not listed; please call or email the office for the contact information of a phone support person near you. Please remember that phone support volunteers are peers - women using the New Life Program to take charge of their lives - and not trained recovery professionals.
If you have one year or more of continuous sobriety through the New Life Program and wish to volunteer to be a peer phone support, please fill out our Volunteer Application.
While not a source of direct peer-to-peer support, many women find that subscribing or following WFS on social media sites can be a good source of inspiration for their recovery. A volunteer posts on behalf of the organization daily.
- @WFS4C on Twitter
2019 Annual Weekend Conference
June 7-9, 2019
Center Valley, PA
Now accepting applications from presenters! Download the Call for Presentations application here.
Have something more casual in mind? We are also seeking volunteers for more informal activities - craft projects, guided meditations, morning exercise groups, yoga, meet and greets, WFS Online forum labs, evening wind-down activities, and just plain organized fun! No need to fill out the full Call for Presentations for these informal activities - just email email@example.com with your idea.
Karen has recorded 19 CDs of her original inspirational music, and is the author of an inspirational book, “Let Go of the Shore: Stories and Songs That Set the Spirit Free.” Among her many accomplishments, she has been a professional comedienne, led her own band for corporate events, and sings, speaks, and leads workshops at women’s retreats, mind-body & health conferences, and various churches around the country. She has been called “a master of communicating presence and spirituality through music.” She loves making music, making a difference, and touching hearts. Please join us in welcoming Karen to the WFS Annual Weekend Conference 2019!
Annie Grace, a favorite of many of our WFS Online participants, has generously agreed to address our crowd of 4C women live via the web! Grace is the author of the popular book "This Naked Mind: Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life" and also has an active blog and podcast sharing knowledge and inspiration for persons in recovery. We are excited to expand our 4C repertoire into the electronic realm to bring even more value to our Conference attendees!
Check back here often for more information as our schedule develops!
Women from around the globe gather every June for the WFS Annual Weekend Conference at DeSales University in Center Valley, PA. This retreat-style weekend offers workshops, presentations, and WFS meetings from Thursday evening to mid-day Sunday, as well as the annual fundraising auction and other group activities. All women using the New Life Program for overcoming Substance Use Disorders are welcome. Join the WFS Mailing List to receive updates about conference registration.
WFS is always on the lookout for talented individuals to contribute to this annual event. Women using the New Life Program, as well as counseling and other professionals, are welcome to fill out our Call for Presentations if they would like to be considered to facilitate a workshop or group. Applications for the 2019 event will be available around October of 2018.
Below are some local links for those who are thinking of arriving early or staying over and sightseeing.
- The Sayre Mansion – Bed & Breakfast
- The Historic Bethlehem Partnership
- The Allentown Fairgrounds Farmers Market
- The Quakertown Farmers Market
- The Crayola Factory
- Trans-Bridge Bus Lines
- Elite Limousine & Coach (towncars & vans between airport and DeSales or local area, reasonable pricing)
- Schaeffer's Harley-Davidson (Harley Rentals)
- National Canal Museum & Hugh Moore Park
- Hawk Mountain Bird Sanctuary
- Lehigh Gap Nature Center
- The Morning Call – Lehigh Valley PA area Newspaper
- The Pennsylvania Shakespeare Festival
- Pocono Mountains Visitors Bureau
- Longwood Gardens
- The Rodale Institute
- Dorney Park
- Hershey, PA
- Cabela's – Shopping
- American Candle Outlet – Shopping
- The Crossings Factory Stores – Shopping
- VF Factory Outlet – Shopping
- Railroad Museum of PA
- Strasburg Railroad
- Steamtown – National Park Service
- Wanamaker Kempton & Southern RR – WK&S Fan Site
- East Broad Top Railroad – East Broad Top Fan Site
- Lehigh Valley Audubon Society
- Lehigh Valley International Airport (ABE)
- Lehigh Valley Visitors Bureau
- Lehigh Valley Velodrome
- Bucks County, PA
- Quakertown, PA
- New Hope, PA
- Reading – Berks County, PA
- Pennsylvania Visitor Information