“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ~~C. Joybell C.
“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” ~~Brené Brown
“You may be the only person left who believes in you, but it’s enough. It takes just one star to pierce a universe of darkness. Never give up.” ~~Richelle E. Goodrich
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.
In our WFS Program booklet it states “The way we experience our life is a result of our thoughts. With our mind we shape each day.” Active addiction warps thinking. Before New Life, thoughts were chaotic, unbalanced and oftentimes tied to the extremes. There was no middle ground or gray area. It was either all in or nothing and life felt exhausting because it was. Sobriety and Statement #5 in action can change that and open a portal for balance.
With a mind clear of alcohol or drugs we can be aware of our thought processes. My favorite way to connect with my thinking is through journaling. Even if I am unaware of my thoughts on a particular day, I can review the words and get a good glimpse. It even helps to identify patterns of thought that I may not otherwise notice. This is especially helpful when emotions are intense or life feels exceptionally busy.
But I love what Jean says to do in her book Goodbye Hangovers Hello Life “Say it a hundred times a day: ‘I am what I think.’ Then make up several sentences to be repeated after that. Tell yourself with every breath, ‘I am a capable person.’ In addition to thinking it, begin to know it. This is not making up a false picture. This is coming to know the real you. You are a capable person. You probably always have been but have defeated yourself in everything you ever attempted before ever getting started.” This week, reinforce who and what you would like to be. Repeat every day and pay attention to how you respond to your encouragement. You are a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman!
Hi 4C Women,
Last week, the Monday Thoughts talked about understanding the difference between assertiveness vs aggressiveness. I’m hoping you were able to practice some of the ways to be assertive. I love how Statement #5 is a follow up in creating positive images, empowerment and setting boundaries on who we think we are – “our” current personal definition, not one from old messages. It is who we are today as we work through changing and challenging those old messages that leads to healing.
If you are reading this, please add courageous to your 4C woman identity. You are courageous that you acknowledged your problem that once had you and followed the path of seeking positive support and guidance through WFS. As Jean said, say it a hundred times a day and know it is your truth. Just as initially introducing ourselves as competent women may feel or felt extremely uncomfortable, eventually it feels right, truthful and our actions reflect that. We are competent, assertive, courageous women. That is the truth we can live by each day.
What is standing in your way of knowing this?
Are you defining yourself with extreme negative comments with no regard to your strengths and achievements? Are you willing to work diligently on changing this internal dialogue? Do you believe you deserve to recognize your worth on this recovery path?
Recently a dear friend sent me a beautiful quote and I used it at the closing of my zoom meeting last week. I would love to share it with all of you as it fits this Statement so beautifully.
“No punishment anyone might inflict on us could possibly be worse than the punishment we inflict on ourselves by conspiring in our own diminishment” – Parker Palmer in I will Not Die an Unlived Life by Dawna Markova.
To practice this thought:
Conspire in your own enhancement. Name one quality or accomplishment you cherish in yourself. The answers shared last week were touching and such a joy to have each woman consider a quality or accomplishment she cherished. It was so personal and uplifting. I am encouraging you to consider how you would answer this question.
Bonded in becoming and knowing we are in charge of defining who we are. Old messages are thrown out, believing we deserve a New Life is our path today, Dee
You are invited to a new event, sponsored by the Creative Crew!
A Holiday showcase of handmade items by our sisters will be for sale. There will be quilted items, glass pieces, notecard sets, jewelry, a bee themed journal and more! 100% of the funds will be directed to Giving Tuesday to support WFS.
What you need to do:
- Register or Sign In to the Holiday Sale Catalog at The Creative Crew Holiday Sale. TIP: If you registered for the Conference Auction in June 2021, your login is still active. If you do not remember your password, you can request an email to reset the password.
- You may preview items online, as they are added to the catalog!
- The Holiday Sale opens at 10am US/Eastern (your timezone) on November 5 and closes with the auction ending at 9pm US/Eastern (your timezone) on November 6.
The Creative Crew is a new group and we welcome all sisters in WFS. We share our projects using any media and inspire each other, forming priceless connections. And sometimes we collaborate on a project! If you would like to join us at our monthly meeting, please send an email to [email protected]
Mark you calendars for the sale and have a safe Halloween!
Hugs and Aloha,
The Creative Crew