“Impossible and extremely difficult are as unalike as the desert and the ocean.” ~~Richelle E. Goodrich
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” ~~Eleanor Roosevelt
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” ~~Dr. Benjamin Spock
#5 I am what I think.
I am a capable, competent, caring and compassionate woman.
Statement #5 is the essence of the WFS New Life Program and one that continues to enlighten different aspects of sobriety and recovery. It is extremely freeing to understand and know that each of us is in charge of our own thoughts no matter how uncomfortable or difficult that they may be.
Last week a wonderfully independent, enthusiastic friend, loving mentor and strong woman passed away after a contented, full life. My whole body felt the sadness immediately. Sitting with these feelings of grief, my thoughts turned to her life. I recalled the many past conversations and life events. What an honor it has been to have shared in her insights, outlook and giggles. A long ago, retired elementary teacher, she had the playfulness of a third grader yet displayed the insights of a master who knew what people needed on the inside. Life was a question and she craved learning. Listening was a skill that she possessed, which she absolutely delighted in. People were drawn to her genuineness. Living her life with purpose and passion, her guiding light will forever be bright.
Of course, the tears have flowed yet Statement #5 has been instrumental in processing thoughts and emotions. It is because of the WFS New Life Program and all the incredible 4C women who practice the Statements and live life just like she did, love grows and expands.
Hi 4C Women,
As I read Karen’s message, I was touched by the impact her friend had on Karen’s outlook in her New Life; how Statement #5 helped her process this deep loss. It brought into focus how many amazing women I have met over these 33 years and the incredible impact they have had on my life. I have been writing Monday Thoughts since 2007 with our beloved Nancy Cross and before that, articles for Sobering Thoughts. It is the WFS program and the women who practice it that have inspired me all of these years. Putting Statement #5 into action was a turning point for me. When I recall the words I used to describe myself before WFS, I cringe. I am what I think was a litany of negativity.
Almost a year ago, our group answered questions related to Statement #5 and I know my answers would have been quite different before WFS. This is why I date everything so when I do an exercise such as this, I can see the personal growth I have made and also where I need to focus on additional positive change. Life presents so many opportunities for gaining insight into who we are, how we see ourselves participating in our New Life and the need to recognize how much we have and are becoming 4C -5C women – adding Courageous! Here are the questions:
1. I am capable of:
2. I am competent in:
3. I am caring about:
4. I am compassionate about:
5. I express courage by:
This has been a trying time for many of us as we travel on an uncertain journey with much isolation and perhaps questioning our coping with it. In this time, I find myself asking what fulfills me and how am I taking action to incorporate that in my life. I may not be able to do it now yet I can dream and hope because I am capable of making plans, competent in carrying through when the time is right, care enough about myself to know a plan is practicing self-care, realize what my passion is deep in my soul and am courageous enough to have the patience and perseverance to be hopeful my plan will happen in due time. I would never have had this mind set before WFS. So beyond grateful for changing my definition of me from negative, discouraging and dismissive to one of loving, caring and hopeful. As the saying goes, it’s priceless.
I’d like to close this message with these 2 additional questions:
1. What fulfills you?
2. Do you have an action plan and patience filled with hope that you will be able to fulfill that dream when the time is right?
Bonded in creating our own personal, positive definition of who we are, Dee