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New WFS Meeting – Elizabethton, TN

WFS is proud to announce the start of a new face-to-face meeting!

Elizabethton, TN

Fridays – 12:00 pm

Start Date: 4/26/2019

Please email 1089@womenforsobriety.org with questions and to obtain the exact location of the meeting.

Please join us in extending our gratitude to the volunteer Certified Moderator who has made the commitment to bring the New Life Program to her local community!

If you are feeling inspired to bring WFS to your local community, please review the requirements for becoming a Certified Moderator and contact the Face-to-Face Management Team for assistance.

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New WFS Meeting – Arlington, VA

WFS is proud to announce the start of a new face-to-face meeting!

Arlington, VA

Thursdays at 7 pm

Start Date: March 21rst

Please email 1087@womenforsobriety.org with questions and to obtain the exact location of the meeting.

Please join us in extending our gratitude to the volunteer Certified Moderator who has made the commitment to bring the New Life Program to her local community!

If you are feeling inspired to bring WFS to your local community, please review the requirements for becoming a Certified Moderator and contact the Face-to-Face Management Team for assistance.

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New WFS Meeting – Tucson, AZ

WFS is proud to announce the start of a new face-to-face meeting!

Tucson, AZ

Fridays – 6:30 pm

Please email 1082@womenforsobriety.org with questions and to obtain the exact location of the meeting.

Please join us in extending our gratitude to the volunteer Certified Moderator who has made the commitment to bring the New Life Program to her local community!

If you are feeling inspired to bring WFS to your local community, please review the requirements for becoming a Certified Moderator and contact the Face-to-Face Management Team for assistance.

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Monday Thoughts 2/25/2019

Monday Thoughts

“Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you—to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.” ~~Lori Deschene

“You may write me down in history with your bitter, twisted lines. You may trod me in the very dirt, but still, like dust, I’ll rise.” ~~Maya Angelou

“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?”~~Mary Manin Morrissey


Statement #9
The past is gone forever.
No longer am I victimized by the past. I am a new woman.


Rising from the past, any past filled with fear, hatred, or trauma can happen with the practice of Statement #9. Starting with the awareness and knowledge of holding onto or clinging to the past begins the process to move through strong or difficult emotions linked to days long gone.

In our WFS Program Booklet, “We evaluate our past so we can learn from it. We examine our feelings about the past so we can process and release them. Our interest in the past is to use it as a guide for how we want to be in the moment and to prepare for the future.” Statement #9 is an effective tool to move away from the pain of the past.

This Statement has been a lifesaver for me and countless others thanks to Jean and the effort put into it. My past lived in my mind for years but through sobriety and recovery and the WFS New Life Program, the past is now a tool for learning and growing into today.

How do you rise from the past?

Hugzzz
Karen


Hi 4C Women,

What a great question from Karen. I practiced that this very morning. A man tried to intimidate me with his words and for a moment I was standing in front of my ex-husband, stumbling for the right response, feeling ignorant and trying not to cry so he wouldn’t see that he was succeeding. Statement 9 and 12 flashed before me. I am competent, smart and have learned to express myself assertively. It was just amazing that with all the knowledge and life experience I gained along the way, I was back in the past, questioning myself.

I share this because years ago, I would have stayed in that fearful state of mind. So, while I was there momentarily, I didn’t stay there. WFS in action, is powerful. I stood strong. Yet, I was a bit unnerved by it all and was blessed that a friend was close by who spoke to me about perhaps his being in a bad place and I became the recipient. In other words, it was more about him than anything about me. I also recognized that my reaction had more to do with the years of intimidation felt by my ex than this one encounter with someone I don’t know very well. That is another lesson I have learned through WFS – to be in the moment, to not lump everyone from the past into the present and deal with the situation at hand.

Jean was very wise in teaching us, through Statement 9, to release and heal from the past, to stop the pain, shame and perceived guilt that does not serve us in the present. For me, forgiveness of self has been the key to healing. There are still times that are difficult yet, without it, I would not be able to move forward at all or learn to make healthier choices in the present. Remember, we are in charge of lives, our decisions and that includes whether we are willing to release the past, stop victimizing ourselves and be in the present.

Bonded in releasing and healing from the past and no longer victimizing ourselves,
4C WFS Member

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New WFS Meeting – Quakertown, PA

WFS is proud to announce the start of a new face-to-face meeting!

Quakertown, PA

Wednesdays – 6:00 pm

Please email 1085@womenforsobriety.org with questions and to obtain the exact location of the meeting.

Please join us in extending our gratitude to the volunteer Certified Moderator who has made the commitment to bring the New Life Program to her local community!

If you are feeling inspired to bring WFS to your local community, please review the requirements for becoming a Certified Moderator and contact the Face-to-Face Management Team for assistance.

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Monday Thoughts 12/10/2018

Monday Thoughts

“Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it, nothing great was ever achieved.” ~~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Enthusiasm is the energy and force that builds literal momentum of the human soul and mind.” ~~Bryant. H. McGill

“Every project is a race between your enthusiasm and your ability to get it done. Go fast. Don’t slow down. A year from now, new things will interest you.” ~~Jill Soloway


Statement #11
Enthusiasm is my daily exercise.
I treasure the moments of my New Life.


Why is enthusiasm important in sobriety and recovery? Why does it matter? The WFS Program booklet states “Enthusiasm adds fire to life and provides the energy for accomplishment. By making enthusiasm our daily exercise, we can learn to appreciate the value of our New Life.”

Enthusiasm also “gives life a special meaning. To be enthusiastic is to live each day to the fullest. It makes us feel alive and vibrant. It lights up the inner part of our being—we glow, and others respond to this. Much of this is easier said than done, and it takes conscious awareness and daily practice to reap the rewards.

Here are 4 ways to bring enthusiasm to life during your day:

  1. Be yourself: It can be next to impossible to feel enthusiasm when we are trying to live someone else’s life. What matters to you? What do you wish to accomplish? Live your own story.
  2. Act enthusiastic: Some days we simply do not want to be where we are, whether physically or mentally. Boring meeting? Change your perspective and add sparkling moments. Tired of the cold? Bring yourself out of the blahs by acting enthusiastic. Remember, practice makes permanent.
  3. Give yourself time: Every day, give yourself 15, 30 minutes or an hour to do what you absolutely love. This removes complaining that there isn’t enough time for ourselves. Feel your enthusiasm begin to soar.
  4. Be good to your body: Eat well and get enough sleep. Unplug before bed and learn to balance meals for optimal health. Exercise and meditate, move your body with yoga/walking or discover a sport that fits you. Learn to meditate, finding time to experience and reflect the moment.

What ways have you developed to practice enthusiasm?

Hugzzz
Karen


Hi 4C Women,

Great tips on creating and living with enthusiasm, especially that practice makes permanent.

I organized some of my 30 years of WFS papers and found a message from Nancy Cross dated Nov. 26, 2007 taken from Days of Healing-Days of Joy by Larsen & Hegarty that I would like to share along with my comments from that day. It still rings true for me and demonstrates that insightful guidance remains timeless.

“Passivity and patience are not the same thing. We can wait our whole lives for fortune or love to come our way, but if we don’t initiate action (which means risking failure) the opportunities that pass before us daily will probably never be actualized.

Boldness is the opposite of passivity. To be bold means to choose our destination, to set our own course, and to be brave enough to correct that course if we decide it’s not taking us where we want to go.

To be bold is to act…not with ruthless aggression…but with determined energy. It is to reach out and move toward what we are seeking rather than waiting for it to magically materialize.

When we are able to identify our wants and needs, we become better at making choices and at plotting a personal program of growth. Learning to proceed this way takes courage and practice…and the firm conviction that we ARE worth the trouble.”

Today, I will act…not react.

This day I am a hammer…not a nail.

EnJOY!
Nancy

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Hi 4C Women,

I love the image of being a hammer rather than a nail. It represents the truth that we are in charge of our decisions, our plans. It doesn’t mean that our plans always work out the way we hoped but we are in charge of making them!  Taking risks, building our resiliency against reacting negatively towards disappointment, learning what brings us joy and making plans for our future are all part of building a phenomenal tool chest. Start building!

Love,
4C WFS Member