Women for Sobriety

Monday Thoughts 8.12.24

“When we avoid difficult conversations, we trade short term discomfort for long term dysfunction.”
Peter Bromberg

“Please never forget how brave it is to continue to show up in a story that looks so different than what you thought it’d be.”
Liz Newman

“My idea of success is feeling safe in my home, comfortable in my skin, and present enough to enjoy the little things in life.”
Lori Deschene

#8 The fundamental object of life is emotional and spiritual growth.

Daily I put my life into a proper order, knowing which are the priorities.

Sobriety and Statement #8 in action foster lasting and empowering change that was previously unavailable. Alcohol was an unhealthy escape mechanism that prevented development or growth while doing damage across multiple facets of life. This made daily living draining and emotionally taxing but recovery and practicing the WFS Statements changed that.

In the past, avoiding difficult or uncomfortable conversations was the norm. When confronted, my first impulse was aggression; lashing out, sulking, or revenge. It was all about winning. It then morphed into the opposite; never saying anything to prevent backlash. Today I understand those responses came from a lack of tools or skills and still enjoy learning new techniques. Simply practicing having an uncomfortable conversation with a 4C sister or friend can lessen the intensity beforehand. The WFS Program is an outline or a guide; the use of the Statements provides new tools and skills for everyday living.

Here is a guideline by Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick for managing a hard conversation:
1.    Preparation:
·    Ask them if this is a good time to talk.
·    Make sure you are calm and regulated.
·    Be prepared with desired talking points.
2.    Self-Awareness:
·    Are you feeling anxious or irritable?
·    What might trigger you during this conversation?
·    How can you stay calm and present?
3.    Other-Awareness:
·    Ensure you are being assertive, NOT aggressive.
·    Is this a triggering topic for them?
·    Have you asked what they need to feel safe during this conversation?

4.    Resolution:
·    Make sure both people have a chance to talk and be heard.
·    Determine together how to solve or collaborate on a solution.
·    Check-in with each other to re-establish connection.

Hugzzz and bonded together in overcoming difficult conversations, with continued thoughts of healing and well-being for Dee as she recuperates from her recent surgery. 
Karen

HELP US FIND RECOVERY EVENTS NEAR YOU!

September is National Recovery Month. To expand our WFS outreach efforts and join in the celebration of recovery, please let us know about any recovery fairs, special events, and recovery walks in your neighborhood.

Just fill out this simple formand let us know:

  • If we can invite other women to register;
  • If you are willing to lead; or
  • If we can help find another volunteer to take charge.