“She believed she could, so she did.” ~~Unknown
“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” ~~Marcus Aurelius
“You are today where your thoughts have brought you, you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” ~~James Allen
#5 I am what I think.
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.
Do your thoughts about your New Life reflect the life that you are living today? Our founder, Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D. used an empowering tool to create the life she desired; self-imaging. Self-imaging can help create the shift needed and it can begin with Statement #5.
Owning our thoughts can help pave the way to create a connected life. With 2020 being a year of envisioning for so many, it begins with our thoughts. Here is an article by Jean:
The Way it is
“WFS is a program of habit breaking and behavior modification through changed thinking. We live in our minds, in our thoughts. If our thoughts are poisonous, so too, will our actions be. If our thoughts are troubled, our actions are destructive to ourselves.
The WFS program is one of positivity, a program of positive imaging. As women, our greatest problem is the lack of a working self-image. We operate from an image given to us by our parents, or one parent, and then we operate from other images provided to us from other persons we are around. Because of this, the WFS program shows how to change into a positive way of imaging ourselves. Our keynote is: I am a competent, caring, compassionate woman.” And we literally think ourselves into this image and act from it.
We must begin to repair our opinion of self. We must view our good qualities and we must see ourselves as capable. Isn’t it strange that most women raise an entire family, yet see themselves as being incapable of doing anything?”
Statement #5 Tool: Self-imaging. Summarize your positive qualities. Define SMART goals; (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-based) Confront distortions in thinking, measure yourself with your own yardstick, accept and know you are adaptable and unique. If you would like to share a helpful tool for this Statement, email firstname.lastname@example.org
What do you envision for yourself?
Hi 4C Women,
Before WFS, I gave away my power, my self-esteem, self-love to the opinions of others or should I say the “judgment” of others. Most times, it wasn’t even the truth. It was my own distorted definition of who I thought I was. It may have started in childhood, bolstered by other authority figures and unhealthy relationships yet the outcome was the same – I drank because I felt unworthy, unlovable, not enough and a list of negative images. I had no idea of how to change that until WFS and much needed therapy. I am beyond grateful for learning self-love, self-worth and self-respect with the WFS Statements.
I bought a book at the WFS conference years ago entitled “The Self-Esteem Companion” by Matthew McKay, PhD., Patrick Fanning, Carole Honeychurch and Catharine Sutker. I guess it takes a group of people to teach others how to raise their self-esteem. It has wonderful exercises that I use to this day.
This is a visualization exercise. I hope you’ll give it a try.
Sitting in a chair, quietly speak these words to yourself:
I am a human being. I’m worthwhile simply because I exist and try to survive. I take care of myself. I take myself seriously. I correctly take myself into consideration in all matters. I have legitimate needs and wants. I can choose what I need and want without having to justify it to anybody. I make choices, and I take responsibility for them. I always do my best. Each thought and action is the best I’m capable of at the time.
Because I’m human, I make mistakes. I accept my mistakes without blame or judgment. When I make a mistake, I try to learn from it. I am imperfect, and I forgive myself for my mistakes. I know that others are equally worthy, equally imperfect. I have compassion for them because they are engaged I the same struggle for survival that I am.
I think this is a very powerful exercise and for me, it brings hope to working through my struggles and a measure of peace as I continue my healing process.
Think of the 4 and sometimes 5 Cs. How would you answer these questions?
I am capable of:
I am competent in:
I am caring about:
I am compassionate about:
I express courage by:
Bonded in knowing we are 4C women! Dee