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Monday Thoughts 11/11/2019

“Today is the day you can love yourself totally with no expectations.”  ~~Louise Hay

“Love is always bestowed as a gift—freely, willingly, and without expectation.  We don’t love to be loved.  We love to love.”  ~~Leo Buscaglia

“For me, a life without expectation results in a life with inspiration.”  ~~Alanis Morissette


#7 Love can change the course of my world.

Caring is all-important.


Have you ever said to yourself that you could be happy, love yourself or feel better if only; you lost weight, had this amount in the bank or stayed sober for that length of time?  The WFS New Life Program and Statement #7 can aid in understanding expectations and embracing love.

An expectation can be understood as a unit of measurement, or judgment if you will, and does not allow room for flexibility.  For instance, stating that you can love yourself only when you lose 50 pounds puts loving yourself in the future instead of now.  It is rigid and inflexible and creates a direct path to self-criticism. The very fact that you are alive is enough to love yourself.  You are deserving of love.

In our WFS Program booklet it states, “Practice of Statement #7 leads to understanding love and the importance of self-care.  Our New Life depends on establishing healthy, loving relationships, first with ourselves, and then with others.”  This week identify expectations that you may have set and examine them.  Do they help or hinder love in your life?  What actions will you take to love yourself this week?




Hi 4C Women,

I have made those kind of promises to myself, putting judgments on my worthiness, creating unreasonable standards so failure to self-love was inevitable.  Statement #7 taught me that self-love, self-care, can open a whole new path to genuinely caring for both myself and others.  It was achievable!

There is an exercise in the beginner’s guide that asks us to list people we love and why we love them.  I never thought to put myself on that list.  What an eye opener that was as the group discussed their answers.  The second list was of those we have difficulty loving and why.  Well, that was a much easier list to create and I’m sure my name was on that list!  It’s been said that it’s not how we make people feel when they are with us, but how we feel when we are with them.  That makes sense when it comes to these questions.  If I feel loved, I can make a good list of why and if I feel unloved by certain people, it’s even easier to create that list.  Perhaps it is important to start answering these questions with the person who will never leave you – YOURSELF!  Can you create a list of why you love and value yourself and a list of when it’s difficult?  I think the 2nd list will be helpful in determining what work needs to be done in caring for yourself and others, examining how truthful are your answers (judging too harshly or having unrealistic expectations) or putting others “perceived” opinions of you ahead of what is your truth for fear of rejection.   I also think forgiveness is part of Statement #7.  Loving ourselves requires forgiving ourselves and learning to forgive others.  And remember, forgiveness of others does not mean they did not harm you or that reconciliation is part of it.  It means you are giving yourself the power, time and energy to focus on healthy relationships, including the one you have with yourself.  That is freedom is so many ways.  You are no longer a prisoner without the keys to break yourself free.  You hold the key and the power.  It is your choice to use it.

Bonded in treating yourself like someone you love and knowing that you are who you have been looking for, a 4C sister

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Monday Thoughts 11/4/2019

“When we shift our perception, our experience changes.”  ~~Lindsay Wagner

“Our minds influence the key activity of the brain, which then influences everything; perception, cognition, thoughts and feelings, personal relationships, they’re all a projection of you.”  ~~Deepak Chopra

“I think the perception of peace is what distracts most people from really having it.”  ~~Joyce Meyer

#6 Life can be ordinary or it can be great.

Greatness is mine by a conscious effort.

In our WFS Program booklet it states, “In early sobriety, our perceptions of life begin to change.  We often go through a period of feeling not fully alive.”  If you look up the antonym of perception, you might find such words as; misunderstanding, misconception, ignorance or unconsciousness.  These words describe quite well, the living of life before sobriety.

The WFS New Life Program and Statement #6 aid in developing perceptibility and awareness.  This Statement focuses on conscious effort, which enables past or outdated judgments to shift.  It is easy to recall times before sobriety in which mountains were made from molehills, only to realize later that it was my perceived perception which increased the size of the experience.  This dissolved any ability to feel contentment.

Whether life feels ordinary or great, sobriety and recovery employ clarity and Statement #6 encourages continued effort.  This week ruminate on how your perceptions in life have changed on your recovery journey.  How has this affected who you are?   What has changed for you? What are you aware of now that you weren’t before?



Hi 4C Women,

Back in 2009, Nancy Cross asked 3 questions that were quite challenging for me at that time.  So much has happened since then and I wondered if the questions would be as difficult to answer now as they were back then.  Here they are:

1.       What do you want to keep in your life?

2.       What do you want to change?

3.       What do you want more of?

Today, my answers, my perceptions are probably similar yet I go about achieving them in a different way because I am different.  What helped was another post by Nancy in 2011 (I had 2 years to work on the 3 challenging questions) and part of her message included guidance by Janet Grace Ortigas.

1.       Explore

2.       Be more adventurous – doing something new or different once in a while

3.       Challenge yourself – doesn’t matter what it is, push yourself a little and see how it builds your self confidence

4.       Plan an adventure

5.       Do volunteer work

6.       Get a hobby – do something you love the most and follow your passion

7.       Laugh more

8.       Live in the now

What I learned from this message is that life can be ordinary and great in small bits of time and effort.  I can take a new way home and find places that I didn’t know existed; take a class in art or dance and either learn something or laugh at my efforts (#7); volunteering can be so rewarding as you give back and receive the joy of knowing you are making a difference; living in the now rather than the past is a gift you give yourself to be able to create the great and appreciate the ordinary.

Bonded in learning what creates greatness in your life and appreciating the ordinary in recovery, a 4C sister.

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Monday Thoughts 10/28/2019

Monday Thoughts

“My mission in life is not to merely survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, and some humor, and some style.”  ~~Maya Angelou

“She believed she could, so she did.”  ~~unknown

“You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think.  The truth is that you are responsible for what you think because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice.  What you do comes from what you think.”  ~~Marianne Williamson

Statement #5
I am what I think.
I am a capable, competent, caring, compassionate woman.

Statement #5 is an important cornerstone of the WFS New Life Program.  Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D., our founder, discovered the thought/action connection through her own journey of recovery.  This knowledge allowed her to learn how to adapt and live a full, sober life. Jean then shared this insight with the world by creating Women for Sobriety.

There is a Chinese proverb that states “be careful what direction your toes are pointed in as you will likely get there” and this is also true for our thoughts.  Whatever we think about most often, directs our attention and life.  Learning to adapt and manage thoughts is empowering and life changing.

Here are six ways by Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D. to be the boss of your brain:

  1. Listen and Acknowledge: Minds, like people, can relax and let go when they feel heard and understood.  Practice gratitude and thank your mind for its contribution.
  2. Make Peace with Your Mind: You don’t necessarily have to like the thoughts or agree with them; you just can let them be there in the background while you go out and get things done.
  3. Realize Your Thoughts are Just Thoughts: Our thoughts are passing mental events, influenced by moods, states of hunger, health, hormones etc. They are like mental habits, which can be healthy or unhealthy, and need time to change.  Just like a couch potato can’t run a marathon right away, we cannot magically turn off spinning thoughts without repeated practice. Be gentle with yourself.
  4. Observe Your Own Mind: Mindfulness includes gently bringing your mind back to focus as well as noticing when your mind wanders.  Like a good CEO, you begin to know when your mind is checked out or spinning its wheels, guiding it back to center or balance.
  5. Retrain Your Mind to Rewire Your Brain: Autopilot is not good for emotional functioning or well-being.  Over long periods of time, patterns become etched in our minds, cementing rapid response.  The good news is that we can rewire our brains from previous fear-based shortcuts into healthy and balanced decision making.
  6. Practice Self-Compassion: By practicing self-compassion, we can learn new ways of supporting ourselves in our suffering. Rather than criticizing ourselves, we can deliberately seek out inner and outer experiences that bring us joy or comfort; the beauty of nature, creative self-expression or memories of happy times with loved ones.

Being your own CEO, how do you manage your thoughts?

Hi 4C Women,

As I read over the 6 ways to be the boss of my brain, each one is so invaluable and I honestly love the analogy of being the CEO of my thoughts.   I believe #5 stood out to me as there was a time when I would be on autopilot, a time when my self-esteem was practically non-existent.  My automatic response to many situations and relationships was that if anything went wrong, it was all my fault because I was stupid, inadequate, too needy, overly sensitive and lots of other esteem crushing words/thoughts.  What I realized is that I was trying to prove these thoughts to be true before the other person did when, in fact, that was probably the last thing they were thinking. I became good at projecting my thoughts as belonging to others.  Alcohol helped cover up those feelings but as we all know, a cover up eventually becomes clearly seen. A cover up is a camouflage that will never heal the pain of feeling unlovable or unworthy.  It is a temporary fix for a deep hurt.  And for me, my identify was wrapped up in the past.  Statement #5 became the building block for me to create my new, truthful identity of who I was in the present.  No more inner critic from the past trying to convince me I was wasting my time learning to love myself.  I gave my inner critic a name and when he starts to make me question my worth, I turn to my shoulder where he is sitting with a smirk on his face, and depending on what he is trying to falsely whisper in my ear, I tell him to be quiet (truthfully, shut up) or flick him off my shoulder.  I have worked darn hard on learning to love myself and no deceiver is going to take that away or have power over me.

I encourage you to practice the 6 ways to become the boss of your thoughts.  Love, nurture, praise, be compassionate with yourself as you would a loved one.  This will guide you to be who you think and know you are – a 4C woman!

Bonded in knowing I am who I think,


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Monday Thoughts 10/21/2019

Monday Thoughts

“For fast-acting relief, try slowing down.”  ~~Lily Tomlin

“You’re only human.  You don’t have to have it together every minute of every day.”  ~~Anne Hathaway

“It’s OKAY to be scared.  Being scared means you’re about to do something really, really brave.”  ~~Mandy Hale

Statement #4
Problems bother me only to the degree I permit.
I now better understand my problems. I do not permit problems to overwhelm me.

Lately, life has felt overwhelming and uncertain.  Fear of the unknown and personal expectations have ruled daily thoughts.  Facing uncertainty is not easy but opening about struggles brings understanding and deep connection; exactly what Statement #4 is all about.

The WFS New Life Program and Statement #4 in action prevent relapse and cement recovery.  Needing to add action to this Statement, reaching out has become a top priority.  Isolation is detrimental to sobriety.  Additionally, doing the following exercise from page 23 of the WFS Beginner’s Collection aids in shifting focus from worry and doubt to overcoming and confidence.

Exercise:  Write about specific problems that once worried you, how they were solved, and if they were solved in the way your worrying about them indicate.  Reflect on some of your current problems, then brainstorm possible solutions for your problems.  Finally, reflect on if/how your worrying has ever solved your problems.


Hi 4C Women,

There are problems/constant worrying and then there are concerns.  For me, problems/constant worrying became a distraction so I didn’t have to make decisions or problem-solve authentic issues in my life. It was more about my fear of the unknown, wanting to control the outcome when I never considered possible solutions.  Just wringing my hands, venting constantly and carrying around a cloud of darkness. I was always making the proverbial molehill into a mountain, a giant boulder!  When I did that, I made sure there was no time to handle a real issue.  Before WFS, I used alcohol to handle it all and then not only did I still have the concern, the problems that required no problem-solving, were still there in my mind, taking up unnecessary space.

When I first started moderating, I felt it was my responsibility to solve everyone’s life problems – again, still distancing myself from learning how to problem-solve my own life issues.  This is why I am so grateful to WFS for teaching me ways to disseminate the difference between my chronic worrying and concerns that needed my attention.  I learned to reach out by sharing my concerns in a safe environment, seeking input, creating a pros and cons list to help me in my decision-making.

What I have learned is that with sobriety, I can be available to support others, to give my input as I, too, need input.  It’s a beautiful balance of support, caring and learning how to make healthier decisions.  I still use distractions when I feel overwhelmed but usually it’s organizing something I’ve been putting off.  Sometimes that distraction alone gives my mind a much-needed break.  It’s all a process and being patient with ourselves is the compassionate way to handle it.

When considering the differences between worry and concern, consider these distinctions by Dr. Hallowell:

  • Worry distracts us; Concern focuses us
  • Worry disables planning; Concern helps up plan
  • Worry blurs our vision; Concern clarifies our purpose
  • Worry tens to give up; Concern perseveres
  • Worry exaggerates; Concern pinpoints problems

Bonded in learning not to let problems overwhelm us and learning how to make healthier decision-making, problem-solving solutions in a safe place with our WFS sisters,
your 4C sister

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Monday Thoughts 10/14/2019

Monday Thoughts

“Many people think excitement is happiness…But when you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace.” ~~Thich Nhat Hanh, The Art of Power

“Maybe you think you’ll be entitled to more happiness later by forgoing all of it now, but it doesn’t work that way. Happiness takes as much practice as unhappiness does. It’s by living that you live more. By waiting, you wait more. Every waiting day makes your life a little less. Every lonely day makes you a little smaller. Every day you put off your life makes you less capable of living it.” ~~Ann Brashares, Sisterhood Everlasting

“I felt my lungs inflate with the onrush of scenery—air, mountains, trees, people. I thought, ‘This is what it is to be happy.” ~~Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

Statement #3
Happiness is a habit I am developing.
Happiness is created, not waited for.

Before sobriety and New Life, happiness felt elusive and fleeting, and almost always out of grasp. It was something to be captured, for safekeeping. But happiness cannot not be held down, and no amount of alcohol or substance can bring happiness to life.

Happiness comes to life through the living of life. Sobriety and Statement #3 in action enable the experience of happiness to flow from within. Initially, I had a hard time experiencing happiness in sobriety since my feelings felt flat but with time, joy began to flow.

In our WFS Program booklet, Jean writes, “Happiness never came to me until I learned the secret of making it for myself, of finding an inner glow that somehow made all other things right.” This week make happiness your daily habit and unleash joys in your life.


Hi 4C Women,

There are so many thoughts that go through my mind when I think of how creating happiness is such an individual process. We all have our personal definitions of what happiness means, how to create it, acknowledge it and retain the memory of it. In looking over some of the material I have on happiness, I am astounded at the many suggestions there are so I’d like to share a few, several that I utilize personally.

I am creating happiness for myself by thinking before speaking. I am happier without a foot in my mouth. This was from an online chat a few years back but I thought it was humorous and true!

I am happy when I let go of toxic people.


I am happy when I let go of regret and past mistakes.


I am happy when I set healthy boundaries and adhere to them, creating consequences when boundaries are crossed.


I am happy when I stop and look up at the blue sky or a beautiful sunset, observing with pure joy.


I am happy when I approach new experiences as opportunities for fun, to learn and not as possible mistakes. What a difference that makes.


Music makes me so happy and singing while no one is listening is fun too.


One of my favorite things that I have done is to make an alter of joy on my nightstand. I change it now and then but the purpose is that when I go to sleep and first thing in the morning is to see items that bring a smile to my face and heart. It is sometimes a photo, a poem, a book or knickknack that reminds me of a loved one.


Lastly, being a moderator has brought me the greatest joy of all. It is giving and receiving all wrapped up in one.


Bonded in creating our own personal happiness,
your 4C sister

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New WFS Meeting – Albuquerque, NM

WFS is proud to announce the start of a new face-to-face meeting!

Albuquerque, NM

Wednesdays – 5:30 pm

Start Date: 10/16/2019

Please email with questions and to obtain the exact location of the meeting.

Please join us in extending our gratitude to the volunteer Certified Moderator who has made the commitment to bring the New Life Program to her local community!

If you are feeling inspired to bring WFS to your local community, please review the requirements for becoming a Certified Moderator and contact the Face-to-Face Management Team for assistance.

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Monday Thoughts 10/7/2019

Monday Thoughts

“It is not always possible to do away with negative thinking, but with persistence and practice, one can gain mastery over them so that they do not take the upper hand.” ~~Stephen Richards

“Do not allow negative people to turn you into one of them.” ~~Unknown

“If I am not persistent with my desire to think about other things, and consciously initiate new circuits of thought, then those uninvited loops can generate new strength and begin to monopolizing my mind again. To counter their activities, I keep a handy list of three things available for me to turn my consciousness toward when I am in a state of need: 1) I remember something I find fascinating that I would like to ponder more deeply, 2) I think about something that brings me terrific joy, or 3) I think about something I would like to do.” ~~ Jill Bolte Taylor, My Stroke of Insight

Statement #2
Negative thoughts destroy only myself.
My first conscious sober act is to reduce negativity in my life.

Jill Bolte Taylor, author of one of my favorite books, My Stroke of Insight, utilizes wisdom in combating negativity. By changing the topic of what her consciousness is focusing on, she changes her outlook. Not allowing negativity to overwhelm, she stays engaged and aware, exactly how Statement #2 affirms.

Before sobriety and New Life, it was easy to be wrapped up in negativity, or be drawn to it. For many women, alcohol and negativity tended to go hand in hand but with daily practice of Statement #2, that old connection can be lessened or even closed, and a new path created.

The three suggestions that Ms. Taylor turns to instead of negativity can work for anyone. However, you are encouraged to come up with three of your own and share them on the WFS Forum or in your F2F group. If you are not involved with either of these empowering avenues, you can share or discuss with family or friends. It is a great way to reduce negativity and learn other options to manage your thoughts.


Hi 4C Women,

I love the questions and found question #1 the most challenging in finding something fascinating that I want to ponder more deeply. I jokingly pondered why aging is so difficult with all its aches, pains and restrictions. But then, that seemed a bit negative (lol) and I’m sure Ms. Taylor did not mean that kind of deep pondering. So, I decided to dig deeper as she suggested. I was surprised at how much fascinates me and it’s mostly centered on the question why? Why do we feel our needs are second, why is it so much easier to give than to receive, why are we fearful of rejection, abandonment, unwilling to set healthy boundaries? These are not frivolous questions. I believe they are the stepping stones to real change. For me it is the beginning of paying attention to a negative thought, transforming it by truthfully digging deep for answers and hopefully leading to the path of finding my voice, no longer saying yes automatically when I want to say no, being true to myself. Perhaps my personal question is why do I invalidate myself with negative self-talk when it only continues to hurt. This is how I, and we, learn to turn the negative into a loving positive and mean it, feel it and live it!

In the end, I can see how invaluable each of these questions are in changing a negative thought into a positive one. When I think of what brings me joy and a smile to my face, it’s easier to replace that negative thought.  Hard to be negative when a big, authentic smile is on my face. And it’s even more difficult to be negative when making plans for something I would like to do and then actually do it!

The best part about Statement #2 for me, is that is allows me the time to process reducing my negativity. Words are powerful, use them wisely, lovingly and learn to lift yourself up with positive ones.

Bonded in making a conscious effort to reduce negativity in our lives and our thoughts to promote our well-being and self-love,
your 4C sister

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Monday Thoughts 9/30/2019

Monday Thoughts

“Never forget how far you’ve come. Everything you have gotten through. All the times you have pushed on even when you felt you couldn’t. All the mornings you got out of bed no matter how hard it was. All the times you wanted to give up but you got through another day. Never forget how much strength you have developed along the way.” ~~Tiny Buddha

“Change how you see and see how you change.” Zen proverb

“If you’re facing challenges, think of yourself as an ‘OVERCOMER.’ Make this your identity, that you’re the type of person who ‘OVERCOMES’ challenges.” ~~Karen Salmansohn

Statement #1
I have a life-threatening problem that once had me.
I now take charge of my life and my well-being. I accept the responsibility.

Jean Kirkpatrick, Ph.D. often remarked about “white knuckling sobriety” and developed the WFS New Life Program’s 13 Statements of Acceptance to enjoy life in recovery while taking charge. Statement #1 in action enables a sober and balanced life.

On page 3 of the WFS Program Booklet, it states: Use the Acceptance Statements daily. Read them each morning, then choose one and practice it all day for a week. After that, select another and use it for a week. In time, the actions resulting from the use of these Statements will become automatic and your life will change for the better.” The simplicity of how to use the Statements insures manageability and ease of use.

Jean also encouraged daily meditation. In Goodbye Hangovers Hello Life, she wrote “Meditation need not be complicated. There are some complicated methods, if one wishes to delve into them, but the kind of meditation I found effective for me and others at this stage is merely to set aside twenty minutes each morning for absolute silence.” Today, with life filled with electronic gadgets and social media, those twenty minutes are like absolute gold.

How do you begin each new day?


Hi 4C Women,

Statement #1 always reminds me of Independence Day. The day we celebrate freedom from our addiction and take charge of our lives. How do we begin this new journey of responsibility? It could be as simple as taking a new route home to avoid the urge to buy alcohol or as difficult as deciding you need to go to treatment. Whatever decisions you make to create a healthier, more joyful New Life, it is important to recognize that this is how we learn to let go of guilt and shame, to learn new ways of coping with all the challenges and obstacles that will occur in our lives. It is a beginning of empowering you to be the 4C Woman that’s always been there and most of all, to remember this is a process, not a giant leap! Be gentle with yourself as you go through the process.

  1. Where do you start? What’s your plan A, B or C?
  2. What changes have you already made? How challenging were they to make?
  3. What’s your greatest fear/stumbling block to change?
  4. Do you have a strong support system in place when you may start doubting your capabilities?

Bonded in accepting responsibility to be in charge of our lives and well-being,
your 4C sister

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New WFS Meeting – Maplewood, MN

WFS is proud to announce the start of a new face-to-face meeting!

Maplewood, MN
For Licensed Healthcare Professionals Only

Wednesdays – 7 pm

Start Date: 10/02/2019

Please email with questions and to obtain the exact location of the meeting.

Please join us in extending our gratitude to the volunteer Certified Moderator who has made the commitment to bring the New Life Program to her local community!

If you are feeling inspired to bring WFS to your local community, please review the requirements for becoming a Certified Moderator and contact the Face-to-Face Management Team for assistance.

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Monday Thoughts 9/23/2019

Monday Thoughts

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”  ~~Alice Walker

 “Incredible changes happen in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power of instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ~~Steve Maraboli

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”  ~~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Statement #13
I am responsible for myself and for my actions.
I am in charge of my mind, my thoughts and my life.

Statement #13 offers continuing empowerment throughout New Life.  It is a natural extension of forward movement and aides in feelings of balance, contentment and strength.  Jean understood exactly how important progress is and developed the WFS New Life Program for life-long sobriety and recovery.

For some women, self-blame can feel overwhelming.  Releasing this destructive habit takes effort, and Statement #13 in action encourages empowerment.  Here are some effective ways to lessen self-blame by Maria Moraca:

  1. Re-frame how you question yourself. We all have patterns or tendencies, in how we communicate. In a tough situation, there is probably an automatic question or two that you usually ask yourself. When it pops up, write it down. It might be, “What did I do wrong?” or, “Why do I always eff up?” Ask yourself if you would ask someone you care about the same exact question. Chances are, the answer is no. Let that sink in.
  2. Change the question. How would you ask the question if it was directed at someone else? Pretend you are playing the role of trusted friend to someone you respect, love, and whom you hold in the highest regard. Would you have more compassion for their experience? Would you want to be supportive? Would you desire to assist them by being able to offer a more detached view? (Spoiler: Yes!) The new question you ask will depend on the situation. One that fits almost any experience is, simply, “What can I take from this?” I also like, “What do I want to learn from this?” which can remind us to consider in a more empowering direction. Also, “How do I want this to be different in the future?” can help us to formulate a plan to make that future happen.
  3. Now ask yourself that question. How does your altered question feel? Does it cause you to clench up, or do you begin hearing a litany of crappy internal dialogue? If so, change the question again. Keep changing it until you come up with a version that you’re comfortable hearing, that assists you in actually coming up with an introspective response.
  4. Remember, there is not one “right” way; there are just ways of being. I think many of us believe there is only one right way or one correct path. With this belief, there are many chances to consider that we are wrong or that we’ve failed. This is simply not the case!

There are many ways to do most tasks, just as there are many ways to live our lives. Having a difficult experience doesn’t mean we’ve done anything wrong; it means we are on a tougher road to learning, for the moment.

Opportunities are infinite; our options are boundless, and we always have the power to change our perspective on any life event, large or small.

We have just as much energy for self-compassion and exploration as we do for self-punishment. It’s up to us to direct it.

How do you shift the energy when you realize you’re beating yourself up?


Hi 4C Women,

I love the part of this message when Karen says there are many ways to live our lives. Having a difficult experience doesn’t mean we’ve done anything wrong; it means we are on a tougher road to learning, for the moment.

It is amazing how many of those challenging experiences present themselves throughout our lives.  What I have learned from these WFS Statements is that even when I make a mistake, it is my choice to reflect and learn how I will handle it if it happens again and to forgive myself.  Beating myself up for a mistake achieves nothing but pain.  Learning from it is empowering.  This is what I cherish about WFS meetings.  We share our experiences and teach each other.   This is how we learn that we are in charge of our lives.  We make choices, gain insight and pick ourselves up and move forward.  We take responsibility and learn to trust our decision-making.  That’s empowerment!

Bonded in taking responsibility for meeting the challenges of life and becoming empowered,
your 4C sister