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Monday Thoughts 12/10/2018

Monday Thoughts

“Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it, nothing great was ever achieved.” ~~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Enthusiasm is the energy and force that builds literal momentum of the human soul and mind.” ~~Bryant. H. McGill

“Every project is a race between your enthusiasm and your ability to get it done. Go fast. Don’t slow down. A year from now, new things will interest you.” ~~Jill Soloway


Statement #11
Enthusiasm is my daily exercise.
I treasure the moments of my New Life.


Why is enthusiasm important in sobriety and recovery? Why does it matter? The WFS Program booklet states “Enthusiasm adds fire to life and provides the energy for accomplishment. By making enthusiasm our daily exercise, we can learn to appreciate the value of our New Life.”

Enthusiasm also “gives life a special meaning. To be enthusiastic is to live each day to the fullest. It makes us feel alive and vibrant. It lights up the inner part of our being—we glow, and others respond to this. Much of this is easier said than done, and it takes conscious awareness and daily practice to reap the rewards.

Here are 4 ways to bring enthusiasm to life during your day:

  1. Be yourself: It can be next to impossible to feel enthusiasm when we are trying to live someone else’s life. What matters to you? What do you wish to accomplish? Live your own story.
  2. Act enthusiastic: Some days we simply do not want to be where we are, whether physically or mentally. Boring meeting? Change your perspective and add sparkling moments. Tired of the cold? Bring yourself out of the blahs by acting enthusiastic. Remember, practice makes permanent.
  3. Give yourself time: Every day, give yourself 15, 30 minutes or an hour to do what you absolutely love. This removes complaining that there isn’t enough time for ourselves. Feel your enthusiasm begin to soar.
  4. Be good to your body: Eat well and get enough sleep. Unplug before bed and learn to balance meals for optimal health. Exercise and meditate, move your body with yoga/walking or discover a sport that fits you. Learn to meditate, finding time to experience and reflect the moment.

What ways have you developed to practice enthusiasm?

Hugzzz
Karen


Hi 4C Women,

Great tips on creating and living with enthusiasm, especially that practice makes permanent.

I organized some of my 30 years of WFS papers and found a message from Nancy Cross dated Nov. 26, 2007 taken from Days of Healing-Days of Joy by Larsen & Hegarty that I would like to share along with my comments from that day. It still rings true for me and demonstrates that insightful guidance remains timeless.

“Passivity and patience are not the same thing. We can wait our whole lives for fortune or love to come our way, but if we don’t initiate action (which means risking failure) the opportunities that pass before us daily will probably never be actualized.

Boldness is the opposite of passivity. To be bold means to choose our destination, to set our own course, and to be brave enough to correct that course if we decide it’s not taking us where we want to go.

To be bold is to act…not with ruthless aggression…but with determined energy. It is to reach out and move toward what we are seeking rather than waiting for it to magically materialize.

When we are able to identify our wants and needs, we become better at making choices and at plotting a personal program of growth. Learning to proceed this way takes courage and practice…and the firm conviction that we ARE worth the trouble.”

Today, I will act…not react.

This day I am a hammer…not a nail.

EnJOY!
Nancy

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Hi 4C Women,

I love the image of being a hammer rather than a nail. It represents the truth that we are in charge of our decisions, our plans. It doesn’t mean that our plans always work out the way we hoped but we are in charge of making them!  Taking risks, building our resiliency against reacting negatively towards disappointment, learning what brings us joy and making plans for our future are all part of building a phenomenal tool chest. Start building!

Love,
4C WFS Member

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Monday Thoughts 12/3/2018

Monday Thoughts

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” ~~Aesop

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” ~~Lao Tzu

“Ask yourself: Have I been kind today? Make kindness your daily modus operandi and change your world.” ~~Annie Lennox


Statement #10
All love given returns.
I am learning to know that I am loved.


Sometimes those closest to us, including ourselves, can be the most difficult to love or to express kindness to. Whether we feel we do not deserve love or are unsure how to receive it, love can be difficult to experience at different times in our life. By focusing simply on kindness, a pathway to love is forged and can be strengthened. Here is an article by R. Owens with 5 ways to put kindness in action:

  1. Communicate on a deeper level by asking your loved ones how they wish to be treated. Don’t assume that loving this person automatically gives you insight into what they need. True love helps us develop special sensitivities to the needs of others, but often our love is tainted with attachment, which tends to turn those we love into objects we think we own. If we begin making decisions on our loved ones’ behalf, they will likely feel robbed of a sense of agency. This is the opposite of kindness.
  2. Empathizing is an important expression of kindness. We begin by empathizing with ourselves and developing a relationship to our own experiences, including our comfort, discomfort, and what we need to be okay. After that, we are able to direct that same empathy toward others. This empathy is full of kindness as it is a kind of attention that sees and holds the most tender parts of others.
  3. Learn to set boundaries and communicate when it may be difficult to be kind. We have periods where extending kindness is particularly difficult. If you are with love ones during one of these times, it is important for you to care for yourself. You do this so as to prevent taking your discomfort out on them. Asking for space is an act of kindness.
  4.  Let go of the idea of being nice. Being nice can be superficial, as well as inauthentic and lazy, as we use niceness to manipulate others or bypass real feelings that need to be expressed. We must challenge ourselves into a deeper engagement around the expression of love for others.
  5.  Holding space is another important act of kindness. Holding space means that we allow our loved ones to show up as themselves. We are not reacting but listening compassionately and witnessing them without judging them or criticizing. Holding space is at the heart of our loved ones (sic) feelings seen and heard by us.”

Hugzzz
Karen


Hi 4C Women,

I am subscribed to Action for Happiness calendars. The December calendar is all about kindness and relates so well to Statement #10. Hope you can practice kindness while learning to love yourself and know you are loved by others. Practicing kindness with the guidance of the December calendar suggestions and the article by R. Owens as provided by Karen, are all wonderful ways to love and feel loved.

Bonded in giving and receiving love,
4C WFS Member